Are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you have a wrong view of you? Many people struggle with insecurity for several reasons. Maybe you were treated wrongly in life when you were younger. You could even be unhappy with some of your physical features. There are many warning signs that indicate someone is struggling with insecurity. Are you judgmental of others in hopes of getting eyes off of yourself? Do you attempt to find security by overindulging in beauty enhancements or surrounding yourself with stuff? Constantly comparing yourself with others, being overly defensive, people pleasing, addictive behavior, and even destructive actions are all signs you may have a problem with insecurity.
The good news is you can overcome insecurity and find confidence in the Lord about who you are in Christ. You have to deal with your insecurities if you truly want to enjoy God’s love and plan for your life. First, you have to have a right view of God. Scriptures tell us God is changeless in His love for you (Psalm 59:10). God is not mad at you nor did He create junk. God loves you! Stop wasting your life by searching for security in money, good health, relationships, work, physical beauty or anything else that is not God Himself. Only He can give you true peace. Losing some weight or getting a date won’t bring you lasting security. As God’s child through your relationship with Jesus you can have all the power necessary to overcome anything and be full of joy.
Next, you have to see yourself how God sees you. Stop comparing yourself to others. 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But you are not like that, for you have been chosen by God himself—you are priests of the King, you are holy and pure, you are God’s very own—all this so that you may show to others how God called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.” You are also created in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27). Perhaps it’s time to start looking in that mirror instead of the one of inadequacy and rejection.
Another equally important step to overcoming insecurity is surrounding yourself with others who see you the way God sees you. If you have people in your life that talk down to you or cast shame on you then you need some new friends. Stop worrying yourself with what other people think of you. They don’t bring you worth, God does! You don’t need someone to flatter you with empty words. You need someone to edify you by reminding you of God’s truth. Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). This means you need people in your life who are strong in Christ to help you grow stronger in Christ.
There are two enemies standing in the way of your confidence in Christ – culture and past. You’ll never measure up to the façade culture portrays as beautiful and worthwhile. Equally destructive, your past loves to be your present and determine your future by dragging you through the mud of your mistakes time and time again. Repent of the past and learn from it, just don’t let it hold you back. Remember, insecurity is rooted in fear. But 1 John 4:18 says, “Perfect love casts out fear.” God’s love is the cure for the insecure.