We all have terms of endearment we call our mates. My wife's name is Haley and I call her that primarily but sometimes I put a spin on the name - Hayward, Halo, Haleyujah, etc. Maybe you call your wife "sweetie", "sunshine", "baby", or "dear". Whatever the name, good or bad, it shows relationship.
So what did Adam call his wife? After God created Adam, He allowed him
to name that animal (Genesis 2:19). Ox, goat, cow, badger, mule, crow,
hippopotamus - all names Adam gave the animals (and not good names for
your spouse by the way). A suitable helper was not found for Adam and God
took the initiative to create a woman out of Adam's side (Genesis 2:21).
God brought the woman to Adam - the first time a dad walked his daughter down
the wedding aisle to give her away. This was the first marriage and it
was a covenant relationship.
This covenant is evidenced by Adam's words. Genesis 2:23 says,
"This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called
'woman,' for she was taken out of man." And then that sacred yet familiar
verse that is quoted in thousands of weddings seals the covenant relationship –
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and
they become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).
This is the marriage scripture and the text of the first marriage.
Adam names her “woman” which means “out of man” or literally “mine”. Parade hundreds of animals in front of him
and Adam names them cow, ox, goat, etc.
Parade a naked woman in front of him (Genesis 2:25) and he says, “She’s
mine!” Adam named her a covenant
name. The name “woman” symbolized union,
oneness, and covenant. It screamed
togetherness and devotion. Marriage was
good. The honeymoon had just begun and
they both were walking with the Lord in the garden in relationship with Him and
as the image of God.
Like all marriages, all is bliss – at least until sin enters the
picture. When the crafty serpent (Satan)
entered the scene and tempted them to destroy their oneness with God and each
other (Genesis 3) they quickly lost sight of their covenant with God and each
other on their marriage day. They had
messed up and sin now separated them from each other and God (Romans
6:23). While they used to be naked and unashamed
(Genesis 2:25), now their perfect union had been tainted by sin and nakedness
and sex had been perverted (Genesis 3:7).
They tried to make this sin right and cover it up instead of dealing
rightly with it by making fig leaf coverings for their nakedness. Their nakedness before sin represented their
purity. Their nakedness after sin
represented their shame and sin.
Like Adam and the woman, we too have tried to cover our sin in our own power
and methods to no avail. God stepped in
and did what He does best – healed their sinful state and covered their sin. He made a covering out of animal skin
(Genesis 3:21). Just before God did
this, Adam renames his wife from “Woman” (mine, covenant partner) to “Eve”
(mother of my children). Sin will make
you distant from your mate and where you used to be one and together, now you
are separate and she is just the mother of your kids.
If sin has separated you and your spouse from covenant partners to parental
figures you need God to heal and restore your marriage. If your wife used to be “woman” (mine,
partner, covenant) but now she is just “Eve” (mother of your kids), you need
God to step in and cover your sin. I
think the animal God killed (the first instance of something being killed in
the Bible or history) was a lamb. God
sacrificed an animal for their sin and covered them to make them unashamed,
restored, and righteous once again. This
foreshadowed Jesus, the Lamb of God, being slain for our sins. He can restore your marriage and turn her
from just the mother of your kids back to the woman you adore.